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What Does Anal Sex Feel Like?

What does anal sex feel like? Does anal sex provide pleasure? These are some common questions that you might be curious about. However, if you are trying to figure out how it feels like and explore it yourself, you must understand that anal sex will be different from one person to another.

Males prefer anal sex more than females do. Most women will find it initially uncomfortable, but having plenty of lubrication on hand will save you from the pain.

So, in this article, we will explore everything you need to know about anal sex, including what anal sex feels like for women and men, some tips on minimizing the pain and discomfort of anal sex, and the benefits of it.

What Does Anal Sex Feel Like?

Feel uncomfortable?
Feel uncomfortable?

If this is your first time with anal sex, there is a big chance you will find it initially uncomfortable. If you ask a woman about her experience in anal sex, you will get many responses as follows,

  • It feels a lot like vaginal sex
  •  It feels great when he pulls out
  •  The sensation is incredible
  •  It feels uncomfortable at first
  •  It is painful for me
  •  It feels like reverse pooping
  •  It is a neutral sensation for me

Records have shown that it will feel great for men in anal sex most of the time than for women.

Men enjoy anal sex and feel less discomfort compared to women.

How do you prepare for anal sex?

It has been shown that about 69% of women tend to be afraid of anal sex thinking it will hurt them a lot. However, it will break if you are not prepared for it.

Therefore, whether you are going to experience your first anal sex or have experienced anal sex, these tips can make you feel like you are having the best anal sex ever!

Going all it alone first

Like masturbation can help you increase your pleasures and be comfortable with sensations, anal sex can also be learned by doing it all alone first.

So, you can start with a finger at your depth and pace. You do not have to go much deeper into the anus because too much friction at once can lead to skin tears. Then getting more comfortable with your finger, you can go to the next step, an anal sex toy.

Use a lot of lube, stretch, and repeat.

Anal training is essential for you if you are new to anal sex. It can gradually stretch your anus in preparation for anal sex. Anal toys like anal dilators and butt plugs are great options to extend the sphincter and relax it.

We know that the anus is not self-lubricating, just like the vagina. So, you will have to use lots of lube. You will have to apply more and more lube to your penis or your sex toy.

Going super slow

You must go super slowly to avoid complications of anal sex. You should slowly pull out your penis or sex toy and then reinsert it. Always remember to use more and more lube.

Taking a shower

We all know that butts contain poop. So there is a chance that some of them can make an appearance during anal sex. Most of the time, this can make you feel uncomfortable. Therefore, you can take a quick shower before getting into the main event of anal sex.

A soapy shower or bath will be sufficient, but some people like to use an enema before anal sex for a deeper clean. Even if it is unnecessary, the decision is totally up to you.

Using protection

There is a chance of spreading sexually transmitted infections (STIs) through anal sex. For this, you can use a barrier form of protection like a condom to lower the risk of such diseases and other infections such as HIV, Chlamydia, gonorrhea, and herpes.

It is important to remember that you must use a new condom if you want to switch between anal and vaginal sex. Also, if you use your hands or some anal sex toy, wash them thoroughly.

What are the benefits of anal sex?

Sensory cortex
sensory cortex

If you think the only benefit of anal sex is living out some sexual fantasies, you might need to think again.

The anal sex encourages more various paths to the primary sensory cortex, which will enhance our pleasure. This can help people who are suffering from less sexual impact, lack of sexual encouragement, or even the inability to have orgasms (pleasure that happens during sexual activity) at all.

By adding anal sex to our sexual life, not only can we deal with hurdles we might be experiencing with sexual satisfaction, but also we can really increase and strengthen our enjoyment of our sexuality and even make our orgasms more intense.

What anal sex toy should I choose?

When considering sex toys, safety comes first place. You must choose body-safe and non-porous material that can be cleaned well to avoid getting bacteria in your anus or rectum.

The second consideration after the safety of the toy is the size of the toy. Long anal toys will stimulate the anus and also the rectum. Also, the toy you choose should be smooth and comfortable.

It is crucial to remember that you must use the appropriate lubricant, and silicone lubricants should not be used with silicone toys.


We already know that anal sex can hurt. But you will not have to go through pain or discomfort if you know how to do it properly and prepare for it. You will find various responses to anal sex experiences from both men and women.

So, if you are a woman who is afraid of anal sex or who needs to enjoy more of it, take the tips above and follow them. If you are a guy who needs to have a fantastic experience of anal sex with your partner, you can also take the tips above to fulfill your pleasure in sex life!

Alternatively, if you are not interested in anal sex, please read our morning sex benefits article.

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